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Among the biggest problems people have in attaining their Goals is they get discouraged, distracted or diverted from the final result. Given the amount of cultural noise most of us experience these days, it can be extremely tough to focus on what has to be done. I speak from experience here. I find myself torn in multiple directions, less because I’m attempting to do than having legitimate responsibilities that pop up.

So, how do we handle these situations? For lots of us we try to power through what is going on. We try to get it all done in the same time it would take to do a quarter of what is landed on our plates. We attempt to go it alone. We work long hours and become exhausted, unable to get anything done, much less all of it.

In these situations the frequent element is often that we’re working alone. We’re working on our Goals alone. We’re working on our duties alone. We are working on the solutions independently. That’s among the worst things we can do, even if we do not have any excess stuff competing for our attention.
Here’s three reasons why working alone can kill your Success.

You have no support system. Working on your own Goals without outside support or help keeps means you’re subject to all the ups and downs and emotional insecurities with someone to keep you grounded. Some people can manage this sort of thing alone, but it’s too easy to get sucked down a path of negative thoughts and paralyzing fear.
You have no one to hold you liable. Success is often made up of small, consistent daily activities that you continue doing, day after day and week after week. When something happens to discourage you, it’s easy to bypass those everyday actions today. It’s easy to take a couple of days off to break free from the stress. On their own, none of those things are enough to kill your Success. What kills it is not getting back in the saddle after that break. It’s too easy to let the break become the norm, not the exception. For those who have someone that holds you accountable to your daily actions, it’s harder to disappoint them than accept it on your own.
You don’t have any one to bounce ideas off of. You may think that’s not important. After all, you have got your Goals and your Roadmap, You are motivated and ready. Too often though our ideas and plans have holes because we simply can not see them. We made them, but we usually only see the advantages that go with or result from these plans and ideas. Somebody who’s a sounding board for you may frequently see what you can not. They’re not emotionally invested and they frequently bring a different life experience when looking at your plans. That sort of experience is valuable when you’re getting started. It can help you to avoid problems that would otherwise delay or completely derail your plans and future Success.
Do you see what these have in common with most people’s everyday lives? Unless you’re a hermit or a desert monk, you’re normally surrounded by people who support you, hold you accountable and will help you with your ideas. If you are in a union, then it’s most likely your spouse. If you work in a regular job, it is your boss and co-workers. If you’re in school, it is your teachers, professors and fellow students.

So, why do we try to achieve our Goals by ourselves so often? For many it is probably fear. We are afraid others will try to hold us back. We’re afraid we will be laughed at or ridiculed for what we’re trying to do. This can bleed over to our everyday lives also, but for the most part, we don’t work on our marriage, family or job by ourselves. We recognize that we are part of a larger whole and need support from others.

So why do it when it comes to our Goals and future Success?

Knowing How To Act Better

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Do you plan how you will #behave when you negotiate? What #role do you decide you will play? Knowing the ideal role to display will allow you to negotiate . Although you can not predict every circumstance that you’ll encounter in a negotiation, the better prepared you are, the better your act will be.

Your behave:

Everyone plays a role during a negotiation. And, your role should align with how you wish the other negotiator to perceive you; that is your act. You should not see it as bad or inauthentic; it’s an act. When it’s misaligned, you run the risk of weakening your position. For instance, you shouldn’t become a bully if you’ve been playing the part of someone that is helpful. That would be a misalignment.

Consider the following and keep in mind which you can morph from one act to another. Just be sure there’s a readily perceived reason for doing so.

Nonchalant
You can adopt this act to project a’no-care’ mindset (i.e. if it happens, fine – if it does not, fine). You might employ this demeanor when you would like to confuse another negotiator about your real interest in what he is offering. Make certain not to become unmasked by being too deep into the role. Because a fleeting offer may disappear before you can shift functions.
Defiant
“I won’t accept that offer under any conditions!” Be careful when adopting this action. It can leave you in a position that’s difficult to retreat from. While McLennan County Wildlife Removal can be a good tactic, if it is overused and you have to concede, you’ll be weaker throughout the rest of the negotiation.
It is going to lend credence to your act. But you must attempt to recover your defiant act, be it from a less entrenched position, to regain your position. You’ll only be able to use the hopelessness ploy once, twice if you are overly convincing. So, be mindful of how and when you use it. If you do so too early in the discussion, you’ll lessen its effect afterwards. If you do it too late, you are going to bring extra scrutiny upon your own act.

Helpful
Many people like helping people. It is a characteristic that’s pleasing. Additionally, it is a characteristic that some folks despise. Thus, you have to know when to be a very helpful actor and when to drop the act.
Dominant negotiators, the bullying type, usually do not want help. They already know what’s good for the discussion. From their standpoint, your insights will only hinder the procedure.

Invoke the helpful act with collaborative negotiator types. They seek input to market win-win negotiation outcomes. To better effect this act, consider when you’re lead and when you’ll follow. To follow, ask another negotiator for her opinion. After that, build on it. To lead, present a non-threatening offer and ask your collaborator what she thinks of it.

Dominant
Many people do not like to be dominated; it puts too many restrictions on them. Nevertheless, acting dominantly versus someone that’s savvy and in control may have its benefits. The difference lies in whether you are perceived as being overbearing, strong-willed, or simply knowledgeable. To effect this action, attune yourself to the other negotiator’s perception. There may be hidden value in this job. Knowing how and when to uncover that value makes it more valuable.
The stage you’re in, in the negotiation, should direct how you act. Like a good director, if you time your actions appropriately, your actions will be more believable. That will cause more winning negotiation results… and everything will be right with the world.

Remember, you’re always negotiating!