Among the biggest problems people have in attaining their Goals is they get discouraged, distracted or diverted from the final result. Given the amount of cultural noise most of us experience these days, it can be extremely tough to focus on what has to be done. I speak from experience here. I find myself torn in multiple directions, less because I’m attempting to do than having legitimate responsibilities that pop up.
So, how do we handle these situations? For lots of us we try to power through what is going on. We try to get it all done in the same time it would take to do a quarter of what is landed on our plates. We attempt to go it alone. We work long hours and become exhausted, unable to get anything done, much less all of it.
In these situations the frequent element is often that we’re working alone. We’re working on our Goals alone. We’re working on our duties alone. We are working on the solutions independently. That’s among the worst things we can do, even if we do not have any excess stuff competing for our attention.
Here’s three reasons why working alone can kill your Success.
You have no support system. Working on your own Goals without outside support or help keeps means you’re subject to all the ups and downs and emotional insecurities with someone to keep you grounded. Some people can manage this sort of thing alone, but it’s too easy to get sucked down a path of negative thoughts and paralyzing fear.
You have no one to hold you liable. Success is often made up of small, consistent daily activities that you continue doing, day after day and week after week. When something happens to discourage you, it’s easy to bypass those everyday actions today. It’s easy to take a couple of days off to break free from the stress. On their own, none of those things are enough to kill your Success. What kills it is not getting back in the saddle after that break. It’s too easy to let the break become the norm, not the exception. For those who have someone that holds you accountable to your daily actions, it’s harder to disappoint them than accept it on your own.
You don’t have any one to bounce ideas off of. You may think that’s not important. After all, you have got your Goals and your Roadmap, You are motivated and ready. Too often though our ideas and plans have holes because we simply can not see them. We made them, but we usually only see the advantages that go with or result from these plans and ideas. Somebody who’s a sounding board for you may frequently see what you can not. They’re not emotionally invested and they frequently bring a different life experience when looking at your plans. That sort of experience is valuable when you’re getting started. It can help you to avoid problems that would otherwise delay or completely derail your plans and future Success.
Do you see what these have in common with most people’s everyday lives? Unless you’re a hermit or a desert monk, you’re normally surrounded by people who support you, hold you accountable and will help you with your ideas. If you are in a union, then it’s most likely your spouse. If you work in a regular job, it is your boss and co-workers. If you’re in school, it is your teachers, professors and fellow students.
So, why do we try to achieve our Goals by ourselves so often? For many it is probably fear. We are afraid others will try to hold us back. We’re afraid we will be laughed at or ridiculed for what we’re trying to do. This can bleed over to our everyday lives also, but for the most part, we don’t work on our marriage, family or job by ourselves. We recognize that we are part of a larger whole and need support from others.
So why do it when it comes to our Goals and future Success?